What Made You This Way?

A memoir of enmeshment, escape, and post-traumatic growth

A therapist asked me one question that split my life in two:

“What made you this way?”

This is my answer — how a girl who learned to freeze became a woman who learned to rise.

About the Book

What begins as devotion becomes control. What looks like kindness comes with a hook. What Made You This Way? uncovers how childhood chaos can shape survival instincts, how a marriage lived in someone else’s shadow can drain a voice, and how a nervous-system collapse finally forced the truth.

It’s not a story about staying. It’s a story about waking up — about recognizing coercion for what it is, about reclaiming freedom, and about walking into rooms unimaginable once you step out of someone else’s shadow.